Tag Archives: Evaluation

Hiatus and our definitive answer.

19 May

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So. I kind of took a little bit of a (much needed) break from writing there, didn’t I? The school informed me or as the school social worker put it, “warned me” that Lennon was getting the school diagnosis of ASD. Yeah, I know, you don’t have to “warn” me. I just want to hear some good things from the group at the meeting. That’s all. I really want to hear a plan and I want to form a plan and schedule for the summer to continue his learning experience as much as possible. I mean, obviously. He needs the structure and I pretty much hate it haha but Lennon needs it, so structure here we come.

In other news, the old SO and I got married! We are planning a party in the fall but I desperately needed insurance! So, of course, I dragged his booty to the court house whether he liked it or not (sarcasm). I’m a married woman, alright?! I’m the boss. Hahaha ok I’m done…

But seriously, people should be scared of me. I’m getting stronger and I’m not taking anymore bullshit. I am serious. I am sick of the judgements, the stupid suggestions and what ever other ignorant shit you want to throw at me. Do some research and grow your compassion muscle a little bit before you talk to me, or you’ll probably get an earful and you’ll be sorry. End rant. I am happy and strong and about to get a little extra boost from my Effexor.

Watch out.

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Hello therapy!

14 Apr

Thank you wordpress, for giving me a place to vent. Oh lordy, I need it right now. 

Lennon’s teacher is giving me so much anxiety, I can barely take it. I have called her three times now and I also sent her an email, this has been over three weeks. One of those weeks was spring break though, so I guess i’ll give her a break with that one, but seriously. I know she has gotten my messages. She called me and left me a message about Lennons evaluation, or rather, that they finally decided he should have one. I have brought this up to them a few times before. To the speech therapists before school started and to Lennons teacher. I just feel if he can get evaluated through the school, then that is definitely the best way. They actually know him, i’d rather have them do it than some doctor who has only been in his presence for a couple of hours. So anyway I missed her call three weeks ago… dammit. Why oh why did I do that? Why?! Now I am suffering and I know i’ll have to walk my ass in there because apparently I am being ignored.

These are the things that bother me. Its things like this. Its other people and its me. I have problems dealing with things because I desperately need therapy (which I am very close to getting) and other people constantly let me down that are supposed to help me and help Lennon. How is it that everyone I came in contact with from the school seemed so unable to help me? Couldn’t they tell I was so scared and confused? When speech therapists come to your home from the school for the first couple of times, they should tell you exactly what to do. They are the first “knowledgeable” people you come into contact with when you first have questions about your child’s possible diagnoses and their development.

They should say, we know you are worried, you are scared and confused. Here is a list of resources that may be of some help. Here is a list of support groups, this is how you go about receiving help. Nope. That is not at all what happens. Then I call Lennons teacher and wonder, where can I receive support? I ask about the evaluation and she tells me they usually only do one after years of him being in the program. You have to be kidding me! I don’t expect everyone at the school to KNOW EVERYTHING I just expect them to know the basic things that will help families. Not frustrate and confuse them. 

It seems that everything I ask is met with a “oh, I don’t know” kind of response. Do you recommend any day care facilities in the area? Do you know where I can get Lennon evaluated? Do you know how I can go about doing that through the school? 

“oh, I don’t know”

Wow. 

Seriously, someone give me a manual on how to deal with the school! Also, the whole not calling me back or emailing me back thing! How about a courtesy call? Just tell me you don’t have time to answer my questions right now and you’ll get back to me soon, anything, please. I have not been crazy towards her, I have just been asking simple questions I expect her to know, I ask her nicely. My email was just like, hey, I have called you a couple of times, i’m sure you’re busy but I just want to know more about the eval you left me a message about. I left my cell number (which she definitely already has). That was it. So what in the hell gives?? If they are too busy to call parents back then they should not be doing what they are doing. I didn’t even freak out on her about the diaper changing thing. I was WAY too nice about that. I don’t even know why. 

What are my rights here? Do I need an advocate or am I advocate enough, because I feel like i’m failing miserably.